Happy Thanksgiving! What are you thankful for?
I am thankful to be alive -- on Thanksgiving last year I had just been released from the hospital and told that what I was sick with is often fatal. I just got my medical records and clarified a few questions with my college roommate, who is now a medical resident, and she was amazed I survived (I didn't realize until reading my records exactly how bad things were, so I am thankful anew that I am here to write this).
I am thankful for my wonderful family, and for my friends here, who are my second family.
I am thankful to have a place to live, and to be able to take care of my son.
I am thankful that I will soon finish my physical therapy and mostly recover my physical strength without need for further surgery (I am very over surgery). I may even be able to go back to aerial!
Revisiting last year's hell has put this year's personal sorrow in perspective. Who cares about a mean-spirited ex when every day I am able to wake up to a baby whose face lights up when he sees me?
Upon reflection, I've also been able to understand better where things have gone wrong, romantically speaking anyway. My best, most successful relationships are those where I have been the pursuer, or it was mutual. The worst, by far, have been those where I have been the pursued. Too often I wasn't interested until my future partner made their interest clear -- and too often I convinced myself I was interested as well so that I could see myself in the same positive light. Only once in my three decades of life have I turned someone down, and that means a whole lot of unsuitable partners and futile attempts at relationships. Once!
It's a little early for New Year's resolutions, but here are mine:
1. I am going to be a lot more selective about who I date. I am going to get to know someone before I date them, and I am not going to let the flattery of someone else's crush on me cloud my thinking about whether...
I am thankful to be alive -- on Thanksgiving last year I had just been released from the hospital and told that what I was sick with is often fatal. I just got my medical records and clarified a few questions with my college roommate, who is now a medical resident, and she was amazed I survived (I didn't realize until reading my records exactly how bad things were, so I am thankful anew that I am here to write this).
I am thankful for my wonderful family, and for my friends here, who are my second family.
I am thankful to have a place to live, and to be able to take care of my son.
I am thankful that I will soon finish my physical therapy and mostly recover my physical strength without need for further surgery (I am very over surgery). I may even be able to go back to aerial!
Revisiting last year's hell has put this year's personal sorrow in perspective. Who cares about a mean-spirited ex when every day I am able to wake up to a baby whose face lights up when he sees me?
Upon reflection, I've also been able to understand better where things have gone wrong, romantically speaking anyway. My best, most successful relationships are those where I have been the pursuer, or it was mutual. The worst, by far, have been those where I have been the pursued. Too often I wasn't interested until my future partner made their interest clear -- and too often I convinced myself I was interested as well so that I could see myself in the same positive light. Only once in my three decades of life have I turned someone down, and that means a whole lot of unsuitable partners and futile attempts at relationships. Once!
It's a little early for New Year's resolutions, but here are mine:
1. I am going to be a lot more selective about who I date. I am going to get to know someone before I date them, and I am not going to let the flattery of someone else's crush on me cloud my thinking about whether...





























